how can i stop being like this? i want to be tough and not care! people walk all over me and treat me like shit. should i go to a tony robbins seminar or what?
Confidence, confidence, confidence. Decide for yourself who you want to be. You can’t live your life trying to please every Tom, Dick, and Jane who comes along. Your life is your own. At the end of the day, once you become both familiar and confident with the person YOU want to be, you can begin to become that person. Look yourself in the mirror each morning and tell yourself three good things about yourself. Remember that you can’t change who you are for other people, even if you want to. Over time, the confidence will come easier and easier, and you will find that other people will not matter so much. The only people whose opinions matter are the people whom you love; and these people will not try to change you, anyway. Surround yourself with these people. Take comfort and seek solace in their support and love. And watch as your confidence becomes the shield you’re looking for. People don’t disrespect a confident person. If they smell weakness and insecurity, they will feed off of that and try to deepen it. But they won’t hate on you if they see you comfortable and strong and firm in who you are.






February 27th, 2010 at 7:39 am
First off you need to love and respect yourself – confidence comes naturally after that.
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February 27th, 2010 at 8:26 am
What ever you do don’t tell people you don’t care because that is evidence that you do.
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February 27th, 2010 at 8:57 am
hmmm maybe bcause u r scared u will be alone if u act like that… however… if u r feeling like u r being treated like sht, i think it would be better to just forget about what they might think… just put them in their place
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February 27th, 2010 at 9:25 am
You’re a tool.
Then you’ll be a Tony Robbins tool.
You wanna know how to stop people from using you like a tool?
Stop letting people use you like a tool.
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February 27th, 2010 at 10:07 am
First off all…*hugs* It’s hard, especially with how society is today, to be even a little bit different. People are always going to treat others like shit, but the best thing you can do is stand up for yourself and not let them get to you. At least then they don’t have the last word. Never be rude back, then you’re just sinking down to their level. And just remember that if they’re treating you like bull, then most of what they’re saying is bull.
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February 27th, 2010 at 10:32 am
You will stop being overly concerned with others’ opinions of you when you have established and strengthened your own. When you are comfortable with who you are and how you fit into the world around you, no other opinion will be anything more than mildly interesting, at best.
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February 27th, 2010 at 10:56 am
Don’t listen to them. Just be yourself.
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February 27th, 2010 at 11:40 am
i would say you have low self esteem or ocd go to a doctor/ psychiatrist to diagnose your problems. Everyone at a young age seeks acceptance just know that sex is never a way to try to get accepted at any age.
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February 27th, 2010 at 11:56 am
Confidence, confidence, confidence. Decide for yourself who you want to be. You can’t live your life trying to please every Tom, Dick, and Jane who comes along. Your life is your own. At the end of the day, once you become both familiar and confident with the person YOU want to be, you can begin to become that person. Look yourself in the mirror each morning and tell yourself three good things about yourself. Remember that you can’t change who you are for other people, even if you want to. Over time, the confidence will come easier and easier, and you will find that other people will not matter so much. The only people whose opinions matter are the people whom you love; and these people will not try to change you, anyway. Surround yourself with these people. Take comfort and seek solace in their support and love. And watch as your confidence becomes the shield you’re looking for. People don’t disrespect a confident person. If they smell weakness and insecurity, they will feed off of that and try to deepen it. But they won’t hate on you if they see you comfortable and strong and firm in who you are.
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